Resources on domestic violence in Abilene, warning signs

ABILENE, Texas ( – After a domestic violence suspect was fatally shot by an Abilene Police Department (APD) officer on Monday morning, Big Country Homepage wanted to highlight local resources available for those who may need assistance. and offer warning signs to relatives of potential victims to monitor.

Road signs

One in three women in Texas has suffered from domestic violence. Feeling that your loved one may be in an abusive situation is frightening for everyone involved.

According women’s advocatesHere are some warning signs to consider:

  • Push for early engagement: Arrive strong, pretender, “I’ve never felt loved like this by anyone.”
  • Jealousy: Overly possessive; constantly calls or visits unexpectedly; prevents you from going to work because “you could meet someone.”
  • Control behavior: Intensely questions you (especially if you’re late) about who you talked to and where you were; keep all the money; insists that you ask permission to do anything.
  • Unrealistic expectations: Expects you to be the perfect companion and to meet all their needs.
  • Insulation: tries to cut you off from your family and friends; accuse the people who support you of “causing trouble.”
  • Blaming others for problems or mistakes: It’s always someone else’s fault when something goes wrong.
  • Blaming others for their feelings: The attacker says:You are getting on my nerves,” instead of “I’m mador say:You hurt me by not doing what I tell you.”
  • Hypersensitivity: Is easily insulted, pretending to be hurt when he or she is really angry.
  • Cruelty to animals or children: Kills or brutally punishes animals. Additionally, they may expect children to do things far beyond their abilities (whipping a 3-year-old for wetting a diaper) or may tease them until they cry.
  • Use of force during sexual intercourse: Likes to throw or hold you against your will during sex.
  • Verbal violence: Constantly criticizes or says blatantly cruel and hurtful things, degrades, curses, calls you ugly names.
  • Rigid roles: Expects you to serve, obey and stay home.
  • Sudden mood swings: Goes from mild to violent in minutes.
  • Past moves: Admits to hitting a buddy in the past, but says the person “made“Him (or she) do it.
  • Threats of violence: Says things like “I will break your neck,” Where “I’m going to kill you“, then dismisses them with,”I didn’t really mean it.”

Immediate assistance

For immediate assistance, the Project Noah in Abilene is the number one resource for domestic violence.
Dial 1 (800) 444-3551 or Click here to send an email the service.

The Noah Project works with women and families to address domestic violence victims in survivors. Support services are offered to unaccompanied men, women, children and young people who experience family, domestic and sexual violence.
Click here to help support the Noah Project.

Additional Resources

The Abilene Housing Authority and APD/Regional Victim Support Center both have extensive resource lists.
This list is in no particular order.

Abilene Police Department, Regional Victim Assistance Center (325) 677-7895 Sexual assault, physical assault, murder, theft, kidnapping, harassment, etc.
Abilene Police Department, Regional Victim Assistance Center (325) 676-7107 family violence
Abilene Adult Protective Services (325) 691-8100 Abuse, neglect and exploitation of older or disabled adults
Abilene Child Protective Services (325) 691-8100 Public agencies designed to protect children from abuse or neglect
Child Advocacy Center (CAC) (325) 738-8060 child sexual abuse
Harmony Family Services, Inc. (325) 672-7200 Therapeutic foster care and emergency shelter for abused/neglected children
Abilene Behavioral Health (800) 335-3498 Inpatient and Outpatient Mental Health Services

Resources for after leaving your abuser

This list is in no particular order.

City Light Community Ministries (325) 673-6686 Help with rent, utilities, some prescriptions, bus passes, gas
New Beginnings – Big Country (325) 665-5538 Transitional housing for women
Abilene Salvation Army (325) 677-1408 Provide assistance with clothing, furniture, rent and utilities; 24-hour emergency shelter, lunch and dinner
Taylor County Social Service (325) 674-1341 Assist with rent, utilities, some prescriptions, vision and dental care, and indigent burial costs
Rolling Plains Management Company. (325) 674-1341 Childcare, autonomy, housing crisis, help with public services, good start, etc.
West Central Texas Child Care Program Operations (CCPO) (325) 795-4283 Affordable daycare
Big Brothers Big Sisters (325) 677-7839 Emotional support and activities for children
Texas Labor Commission (325) 795-4200 Career development information, job search resources, training programs, and more.
works of faith (325) 437-2272 Life skills training includes job search and retention skills
Christian Women’s Labor Corps. (325) 673-6686 ext. 106 Life and job training, school support
Abilene Baptist Social Ministries (325) 672-4193 Help with clothing, food, etc.
Love and Care Ministries (325) 670-0246 Help with food, clothing, prescriptions, birth certificates, IDs and more
Taylor County District Attorney’s Victim Coordinator (325) 674-1261 Information and referral to victims of violent crime
Texas Department of Criminal Justice Victim Services (800) 848-4284 Direct and personalized service to victims and their families throughout Texas